The eleven tools above cluster into four meaningful buying patterns. Pick the pattern first, then the vendor.
If your top constraint is predictable cost at scale
Start with Netdata (#1) — per-node pricing with volume discounts is the simplest cost model in the category. Then Prometheus + Grafana (#5) if your team has platform-engineering bandwidth, then New Relic (#4) if you want managed software with a usable free tier.
If your top constraint is APM depth on legacy applications
Start with Dynatrace (#3) for Davis AI on Java/.NET, then Instana (#6) if you’re IBM-aligned, then Datadog (#2) for the breadth play.
If your top constraint is everything-in-one-pane SaaS and budget isn’t a forcing function
Datadog (#2) is the safe answer. Build the bill calculator yourself before signing — every metered dimension stacks.
If your top constraint is on-prem / data sovereignty
Netdata (#1) self-hosted is the fastest path to value. Zabbix (#9) and Checkmk (#10) are the established alternatives. Prometheus (#5) gives you the most control if you’re willing to operate the stack.
One thing not on this list: a tool that solves all four constraints at once. If a vendor pitches it, ask to see a customer their size who has run the platform for two years without renegotiating the contract.